Many years ago, my mother who lived in Nigeria, became a widow. The life she had imagined for herself as a young girl quickly evaporated. She tried moving on, finding a life with her extended family, but she was always worried, always despondent. When offered the opportunity, soon after I was born, she gave me up for adoption. An international adoption agency placed me with a family in Canada. Some might think my mother was weak; others might call her selfish. Many call her an... [read more]